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There are common life skills that should be developed or at least mastered strongly before marriage. These are “4 common skills everyone should develop before marriage” these are Habits of Highly matured People we would like to talk about. One must learn to understand and exhibit these skills within marriage.
Both the man and the woman entering into marriage must have certain level of maturity and personal development. Husbands and wives must have personal development before they can achieve unity and success in marriage. Developing and Mastering simple life skills can make the difference between a flourishing marriage and one that struggles.
Let’s look at following 4 common skills everyone should Develop before marriage:
- COMMUNICATION
Communication is one of the common basic skills to any healthy and strong relationship, therefore it is important to develop and master communication skills before marriage.
Marriages which involves two people who are able to communicate confidently, comfortably and understandable with one another are Strong marriages. Communication skills are important because good communication builds honesty, trust and peace. This makes one talk on hard topics, being vulnerable to the other, and through conflicts.
Communication is the technique for expressing ideas effectively (as in speech).
- PERSONAL IDENTITY & PURPOSE
It is very important that you know who you are, define what you want and you want to become. How are you going to know if you are compatible with your future spouse if you don’t know who you are, or what you are supposed to do with your life and that of the marriage.
Knowing your temperament can also help understand or choose a vocation or career, deal with your emotions, develop and practice a good spiritual life and lastly choose a marriage partner.
Self understanding is one benefit gained from knowing yourself. In addition, it helps one understand other people, particularly those close to you like your partner.
Interestingly, there are many individuals today who don’t know who they are and for that matter can’t also know their purpose. Get to know yourself and purpose before marriage, it will help you understand your partner and also have a successful relationship/marriage.
- HEALTHY LIFESTYLE (spirit, soul, and body)
Many think a healthy lifestyle is dieting very well buy Having a healthy lifestyle is in 3-fold: spirit, soul and body. Before you get married, it works best if you are doing well with your Spirt, Soul and body.
Your spirit is where you connect with God or your maker. One must have a strong personal relationship with God and have a belief in his or religion before getting married.
Your soul inhabit your mind, intellect and emotions and therefore it is important for you make sure you are feeding your soul on a regular basis, and have a good control over your thoughts and emotions. To do these, one must take note of the things you see, things you hear, things you read and how you feel for yourself and others.
A healthy body takes discipline choosing what you eat, how often you exercise, etc. but can really enhance your mood and energy level in marriage.
An unconscious lifestyle has the potential to produce a sloppy marriage. It’s important to have a healthy spirit, soul and body because healthy marriages flow out of the overflow of a healthy lifestyle.
- FINANCIAL MANAGEMENT
The matter of finances cannot be overlooked when discussing marriage. We are all aware that financial instability is one of the top factors that lead to divorce. Many lack financial management skills hence an unstable relationship or marriage. It is no secret. Therefore, before marriage, one should have a stable income flow and budget that you are living off of, you should be financially independent from friends and family, and know how to handle cash inflows and expenses.
In marriage, the two has become one and that includes finances. Learn and understand financial management, this skill can make or unmake your marriage or relationship successful or unsuccessful.
Each of these 4 skills cannot be overlooked
- Communication
- Personal identity and purpose
- Healthy lifestyle
- Financial Management
We believe developing, and maintaining and mastering the above “4 common skills everyone should Develop before marriage“ is a helpful one and will go a long way to affect marriages positively.
Everyone who has these skills are highly matured and ready for marriage and will have a healthy marriage. So whether you are in a single or dating season right now, we encourage you to make it a priority to become Mr./Mrs. Right and master these different life skills before the altar… your future spouse will thank-you.
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