Written by Lidija Globokar – Forbes Contributor
According to the Cambridge Dictionary, kindness is “the quality of being generous, helpful, and caring”. This summarizes very well the results of the study about successful teams at Google, doesn’t it?
So how can it be that many people still believe that emotional intelligence equals being nice? It has been 25 years since Daniel Goleman published his book Emotional Intelligence, and he himself said that it is still a big struggle for many people to understand that emotional intelligence is much more than being nice, or to say it in his words
“Believing that emotional intelligence simply means being “nice” obscures what makes this framework so useful — and prevents leaders from having powerful, productive conversations that build up their ability to influence and lead in all their relationships.”
Harvard, of all places, includes kindness in the admission process. And this is not the only college which does so.
The Rabbit Study
Another very insightful study related to kindness is the so-called “rabbit study”. Kelli Harding wrote an entire book about it (“The Rabbit Effect: Live Longer, Happier, and Healthier with the Groundbreaking Science of Kindness”).
In a nutshell, the rabbit study showed that being treated with kindness has a tremendous effect on your health and can even be an important factor when looking at your overall health. It’s not only your diet and your exercising habits that are important, your relationships and how you’re treated is as important as the former two.
Speaking of relationships, it’s not only important how others treat you or how you treat others, it’s equally important how you treat yourself. Don’t forget that the relationship you have with yourself is the one that lasts a life-time, so you better treat yourself with kindness and compassion.
2020 showed very well that we cannot always control what happens to us, but we have control over how we react. Hence, you don’t always know what will happen tomorrow, but you can make sure that no matter what happens, you will be there for yourself, you will be kind to yourself and you will speak to yourself from a place of compassion. 2021 will be a kind year.